Bend-Over Boyfriend Beginner

By: Amy Baldwin

Margaret asks:

My boyfriend and I are starting to explore strap on sex. We have the harness but not the dildo. What dildo would be best for us to use?

Dear Margaret,

Considering that you two are beginners, I would suggest a small to medium sized dildo that is simple and harness compatible, such as the Silk or Acute Dildo from Tantus. Make sure that whatever toy you use has a base. Not only does this make it harness compatible, but it also ensures a safe experience.

We also have sets, with a harness and dildo, that are great for beginners. Check out the New Comers Strap On Set.

Also, lube is a must when it comes to anal sex. I recommend Pjur Analyse me!, a silicone-based anal glide that creates a relaxing sensation without the numbing effect. With the right dildo, lube, and most importantly, communication, you two should be ready to go in no time!